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After I posted last night I backtracked on my friends list to see what I had missed.

I was very excited to find that cousinjean has posted the complete and finalized version of THE BUTTERFLY EFFECT. If you haven't yet read her story, go do so now. If you have read it, I recommend reading it again - I plan too - it's that bloody brilliant. :)

I also came across onetwomany's post discussing relationships or lack there of. I was most happy to see that I'm not alone in my reasoning on such matters.

My theory is I'd rather be alone and happy (most of the time) then be stuck in a miserable relationship just so I can say "My Boyfriend". I don't want to date just to date. Why waste my time if I know there is zero potential of it becoming serious?

I can't tell you how many times I've been called "high maintenance" or told my "standards are too high" and I should "lower them". Um, why? It's more important to be with some loser than be independent and happy? I don't think so.

Now, there was a guy that worked in our mailroom (he no longer does - long story) and people pressured me (repeatedly) to go out with him because we'd be 'perfect' together. Granted, we had things in common. Both of us had a background in art, both worked in Frame Shops at one point, and both of us were big Buffy fans. But, this does not make us a match made in Heaven. What people didn't take into consideration is that, at 36, working in the mailroom was the best job he ever had. I don't mean to sound like a snob, but I want a guy who is financially sound and not drifting from menial job to menial job with no aspirations of bettering his life.

Plus, and here is what *really* bothered me was his superiority complex. He honestly saw himself as smarter than almost everyone he came into contact with. I always felt it was if I was supposed to be honored that he even was willing to have a conversation with me. Of course, try to point out when he made a mistake in a conversation and he would never concede his error.

The thing is, I've met guys who I liked (a lot) and were right for me but there was something that prevented it from going any farther. You know Alanis Morrisette's song 'Ironic' and the line "meeting the man of my dreams and then meeting his beautiful wife"? Been there, done that.

So, I shall keep waiting for Mr Right and refuse to settle for Mr Right Now. Maybe it will be awhile or possibly never, but I prefer being a relatively happy I than a miserable we.

And for some final randomness....

Thank you onlyoot for the lovely e-card. It was most appreciated.

And for those that don't already know, I will not be attending the Con in Oakland. I'll save you all my rant and just say, for ethical reasons, I cannot attend.

Happy belated new year to all of you.